The quote above is from one of my favorite books, Milk and Honey by Rupi Kaur. If you haven’t checked it out, I highly recommend it. It’s filled with beautiful poetry that explains the human experience in the most unique and accurate way.
I love this quote because it reminds me that loving yourself, and being proud of who you are is more important than what others think of you. Of course it’s always great when you have the love and support of others, but believing in yourself, and knowing your worth to me are the most important thing.
Over the past year or so I’ve started to realize what I want to make a priority in my life, and having quality people around me and healthy relationships is at the top. It’s definitely true that the love you show yourself is how others are going to love you. Demand the respect and love you deserve from all your relationships-whether it be with a parent, friend, or significant other.
For the longest time I’ve been so terrified of having other people be mad at me that I would tell myself that I was in the wrong or that I didn’t have a right to be upset about something, when in reality I really did. When people treat you poorly, or make you feel insecure or down about yourself, do you really need that relationship in your life? I know it’s not always that simple to cut people out of your life, but I really encourage all of you to look at the relationships you have in your life and ask yourself if people would go as far for you as you would for them. Don’t let people dull your shine, and always remember that you deserve the best kind of people in your life, who follow through and are always there for you; who want the best for you no matter what. I’d rather have 3 people in my life that are the best people I could ever ask for, instead of having 20 friends who may not genuinely support you, or put effort into the friendship-quality over quantity.
I’d rather spend my time and energy focused on relationships where I feel respected and loved, and like I matter. Why waste time on relationships with people who constantly put other people and things before you?
I challenge all of you to demand the very best yourself, love yourself fully and as always, stay klassy. xo.