So yesterday marked one year since I graduated with my undergraduate degree. To say this year has been a transformative one would be an understatement. I can’t believe it’s already been a year since I transitioned from full time undergrad student, to full time adult, living on my own and supporting myself. Here are a few things I’ve learned in the past year since I’ve graduated…
☆ You won’t stay in touch with everyone, and it’s okay
You suddenly go from living within 5 minutes of all of your friends, to living hours and many miles apart. Maybe some are close by, but in my experience people tend to scatter in different directions. When you first graduate it’s normal to want to stay in touch with all of your friends from school, but you’ll soon realize which relationships are worth the effort of maintaining. Not everyone can be your best friend, and you can’t be everyone’s best friend. You’ll realize fast who your true, real, friends are, and those friendships will only get stronger over time.
☆ Adjusting to adult life is hard
There’s college life…and then there’s being an adult. Whether you’re still living at home, or living on your own, adjusting to working full time or balancing grad school is a much different beast than undergrad. Suddenly you have much more responsibilities, the stakes are higher on everything, and you’re trying to navigate the world of being a more responsible human being. It’s hard, and there’s definitely a learning curve, but it’s not impossible, and the key is to cut yourself a break sometimes.
☆Budgeting is important
I always tried to “budget” in college, but trying to budget as a somewhat adult is completely different. When you’re managing a full time pay check, no matter what the amount is, it’s vital to have a budget so that you’re not over spending on extraneous expenses. Budgeting is a another trial and error process, and something I’ve really had to focus on in this past year so that I can reach my savings goals for the future.
☆ Focus on yourself
In the past year I’ve learned to focus on myself and my goals, and to try not to compare myself to those around me, and those on the internet. It’s hard when you’re scrolling through instagram not to look at someone’s life and think how easy their life is, how much you wish your life could be like theirs, etc. It’s incredibly unhealthy to have the mindset that you’re never enough and you always need to buy more, do more, and be more. I’ve learned that my goals and my potential and circumstances are very different from those of someone else, and comparing them is apples to oranges. I do believe in using other people to motivate you to set goals and develop better habits, but not if it’s going to lead to a destructive mindset. Focus on yourself and…….
☆ Allow yourself to grow
I’ve found this past year to be one of the most transformative of my entire life. I’ve adopted healthier habits, I’ve found new interests and I’ve tried to readjust my mental state to best reflect what I want out of life. It’s been a challenging, yet refreshing year and it’s made me even more excited for the future. Creating goals and seeing myself actually being able to accomplish them is something that never gets old.